For Nia Green (And all Black Parents and Children)
Over the past few days, a video of a Georgia teen identified as Nia Green has circulated all over the internet, and now has persons everywhere who have seen the video up in arms.
In the video, the teen is beaten with a piece of plywood, slapped, punched and called derogatory names by a woman believed to be her mother after a photo in which she appeared with a male companion wearing only a towel was posted to Facebook.
As a form of punishment, not only did the mother of Nia Green beat and derail her, but livestreamed the beating on Facebook, prompting it to go viral.
First of all, it hurt my heart to see an older woman of African descent, who should be behaving like a Queen herself while showing her daughter the ways of a Queen, instead publicly humiliating and inflicting pain on her weeping child.
Secondly, parents have to understand that there is a fine line between disciplining a child and abusing him/her. In Trinidad and Tobago, where I reside, there are hundreds of Nia Greens, being verbally and physically abused by close relatives every day. Sadly, so many of them are of African descent, like Nia Green. There must exist more love and mutual respect between black parents and their offspring, and on that note, I will share what, in my opinion, is the better approach to discipline when it comes to black parenting.
Talk to your child about the negative impact of posting sexually explicit content online
Let him/her know whatever he/she chooses to post on social media remains on the internet forever. Even if deleted from one site, it may have been reposted elsewhere.
Sex Ed should happen at home, too
Don’t just leave it up to their teachers to inform your kids about safe sex and all the complications that may arise from becoming sexually active. Talk to them candidly on this topic yourself.
Speak words to build, not words to break
Refrain from hurting your young king/queen with vicious words. If you call your child disgusting names, you’re sending a message to him/her that it’s okay for other people to talk to him/her like that, too. Words are life. Breathe life into your child.
Instil positive values through your own actions
Only a king/queen can raise a king/queen. Remember that.
By: Danielle Dixon
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